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"Dating in our 40s typically means we know what we want, and we feel pressed to find it quick! "But eliminating fast is often the strategy that prolongs our single status." She warns that there is a thin line between "going with your gut" and being judgmental.
(Are excuses like 'I don't like how their apartment smells,' really deal-breakers?
When you're wondering if your smile lines are stopping Mr.
or Miss Right from swiping right, it's easy to forget that if you were ten years younger you wouldn't be who you are right now. Juliana Morris says love connections at an older age can be even more profound.
"Don't discount referrals or meeting by chance, just because everyone else seems to be using apps," she says.
If you date in a way that feels right for you, you'll be more successful.
In fact, a lot of people over 40 miss dating IRL, according to Novo, who says her clients have the most success when they hang out at places that make them feel good, like a bar that plays their favorite music, at a cozy independent coffee shop, or by joining a running or fitness community—if that's your thing.
Eldad recommends searching Linkedin for a dating coach that melds with your personality, is ICF certified (that stands for International Coaching Federation), and has a proven track record.
"Do not modify who you are, do not copy someone else's profile, and for goodness sake," says Eldad, "stay away from trite quotes." To attract the kind of person you want to be with, it's most important that your profile reflects your authentic self.
Just like a trainer at the gym helps you push yourself, a dating coach kicks your love life into shape.
"In every area of our lives, we hire people to help us," says Gandhi.